It never ceases to amaze me how emotions affect our bodies. Mary, a 61-year-old woman, was brought to me in chronic pain which had haunted her for years. Despite taking prescription painkillers, she lived in overwhelming pain. A very concerned daughter brought her to my hotel room while I was on tour in the USA. The mother had been admitted to the hospital the night before because of the excruciating pain.
Mary winced as she slowly climbed onto my treatment table. She lay flat on the table, staring at the ceiling with a vacant look of hopelessness and despair. “Let’s begin,” I said, and I connected with Mary’s energy field. Her archetype was ‘Martyr’. This tells me that Mary sacrifices herself by helping others and places herself last. She links her self-worth to her suffering, equating the level of suffering with how much she gives to the people around her. Her negative life pattern of ‘Letting Go’ showed that Mary needed to let go of hurt and resentments.
Resentment causes blocks healing
As I proceeded, I felt a huge energetic block, as if I was trying to push down a brick wall. Even focusing with all of my energy, I cannot move that wall. I stop to ask Mary how her pain levels are. She responds with “they have moved from 10 out of 10 at the beginning of the session to 11!” Things are worse than when we started. “Holy crap batman,” I mutter to myself, “this is not going to plan!” I paused the healing process to ask Mary about her relationships.
As we talk through the family dynamics, I discover that she holds a deep resentment towards four family members. Each of her resentments rates 10 on a scale of 10. I bring to Mary’s attention that her pain levels match her level of bitterness. She had not heard this before.
I continue to expound the meaning of her martyr archetype – giving to others before you give to yourself and allowing others to disrespect you. Then I cover the concept of letting go which was her primary negative life pattern. It was clear as day that Mary had made pain her constant companion, instead of realizing she has allowed these things to occur in her life. These patterns were embedded at the age of seven and had continued in her intimate relationships.
The power of forgiveness and energy healing
It was clear what needed to occur to shift the pain levels. I applied my forgiveness healing process. As I stood there representing the people that had done wrong to her, I apologized for her pain and suffering and ask her to forgive and let go of the resentments in her current relationships. After she had finished releasing the resentment towards the fourth family member, I wondered how she was feeling. She said, “I can’t feel any pain”.
From previous experience with similar scenarios, I knew intuitively that this miraculous change would only be temporary, and for a good reason. I asked Mary to reflect on the moment and for her daughter to take careful note of what had just occurred.
Not long after her experience without pain, the pain returned to 10 out of 10. As I had seen with certain clients with deep resentment over the years, the pain was her message to change. The courage required to change for some people only comes when they are totally done with their pain and circumstances. The pain was showing her that she needed to do the emotional work in her life – to realise that she deserved love and respect and that she was the one who had to give it to herself first. Mary’s pain will progressively dissipate to nothing as she has this state.
The time with Mary was a life lesson that I will never forget, nor her daughter. It still amazes me that the experience came with such clarity.
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Blessings and love,