This article includes some quotes from my new book “Freeing the Unloved Girl
How many shocking stories have you heard about women in relationships that had tragic outcomes? How many of those women never thought they would be betrayed, or find themselves in harm’s way? Most of these relationships begin with the woman trusting too much.
Have you experienced or heard of a shocking betrayal, such as the revelation that your twenty-year marriage was a lie, your partner is having an affair, is psychopathic, watches pornography, abuses your children, is secretly gay—or the worst-case scenario, is a serial killer (because someone has to be dating these people)?
These stories are all too familiar. The news headlines are filled with them. Every woman should be armed with the right skills to detect those she can trust, to keep herself and her family safe.
The statistics show that at least one in three women have been coerced into sex, or abused in their lifetime, with the abuser usually known to them. (General Assembly. In-Depth Study on All Forms of Violence against Women: Report of the Secretary General, 2006. A/61/122/Add.1. 6 July 2006).
When something terrible happens to you or a loved one, do you say to yourself, “What was I thinking? How did I not know?” or, “I knew something was not right, but I ignored my feelings.” You often know something is wrong, but you feel you are a prisoner of forces that seem to compel you to accept a negative consequence.
You have no answers. You file your bad experiences, thinking you’re in love, plain stupid or you plead guilty on the grounds of temporary insanity. But these seemingly “crazy” choices can create crises or trigger a chain of events that lead to disasters.
This way of thinking is widespread for women.
Your seemingly self-destructive choices are not random. They are not “just the way the world works”. They have an identifiable cause. The source of your problems may be a dysfunctional relationship and years of disrespect, unhappiness, suffering, or abuse. Perhaps you’ve entrusted a person by giving them the benefit of the doubt, resulting in financial loss and hardship. Here’s the truth: you could have avoided many of these terrible situations.
Gift of Knowing
Even though women have an inbuilt GPS system or a natural ability to feel and know things (often referred to as a sixth sense), this ability can be shut down, disconnected, ignored, criticised, ridiculed, and in the past, deemed as evil. Even today, using the word “witch” (known to describe women with spiritual powers) doesn’t exactly convey the warm fuzzies!
Your GPS system (yes—you have one!) is a permanent, personal guide that leads to the truth and discloses lies. Its purpose is to save lives, divert disasters, protect children, alert you to dangers, and open you to receiving the universal source energy or inspiration that ultimately leads to your passions, full potential, happiness, and leadership. It allows you to expand your life experience, feel and be more.
Connect to Yourself
Your internal “GPS” is accessed when you connect within. For most women, their connection with themselves comes last. As they wake up each morning and catapult themselves into the busy-ness of life, they pay no regard to how they are feeling or what their intuition is telling them until they experience a “straw that breaks the camel’s back” scenario. That’s when they get the reality check that things aren’t as they thought. They realise they have been running on automatic pilot, living in denial, and that they need to start thinking for themselves and acknowledge that their feelings have been trying to wake them up and show them some home truths.
Have Women Disconnected?
- Women are conditioned to care more about the needs of others and ignore their feelings.
- Women are critical of themselves and receive more criticism from external sources.
- Women have low self-worth, reduced self-belief, doubt themselves, and are conditioned to think their worth comes from giving to others.
- Women have been conditioned to be submissive and not to question others’ decisions.
- Women’s intuition/psychic abilities are deemed as “evil” and “taboo.”
- Women are conditioned to feel wrong or guilty.
- Women have fewer rights than males, less influence, and their opinion is less valued.
- Women are subjected to domestic violence, judgment, and abuse.
When women are disconnected, they lack a level of self-awareness (and feeling), they feel stuck and are unable to move forward no matter what they do. Every woman can feel and know answers, discern solutions, and access guidance that directs them to safety, truth, and empowerment. This process takes place when we remove the effects of emotional and physical abuse, subtle and noticeable conditioning from the stereotypes of being a woman.
Disconnected women are most likely to:
- Stay in abusive relationships.
- Ignore warning signals to keep them safe from people and situations.
- Not follow their passion.
- Stay in unfulfilling jobs.
- Struggle to make decisions.
- Have difficulty experiencing fulfilling relationships.
- Make bad decisions for themselves and others.
- Blame others for their misfortune.
- Ignore their own and other’s needs, especially their children.
- Teach their children the same cycle of tolerating abuse.
Connect to Your GPS
Practice the following seven daily tips and keep a journal of messages and impressions you feel or receive. The more you incorporate these steps into your life, the easier and faster information and truth come to you. Make it a way of life.
- Daily Intentions
Ask to be shown or led to information that will resolve your questions or problems. Be clear and specific about the things you are seeking. Resist focusing on the issue or what you don’t want. Keep focused on what you do want.
- Unwind Beliefs
Did your parents struggle in life? Did you have a religious upbringing based on guilt, low self-worth, and fear? Do you believe you are undeserving of respect? Remind yourself you are worthy of only happiness, respect, and loving relationships.
- Ask Questions
Often women are taught to be submissive and give others the benefit of the doubt. Exercise your right to ask questions. Become a detective of your own life and analyse every relationship you engage in. The patterns of others’ past relationships will continue in your relationship.
- Listen to Yourself and Others
Listen to what others are saying or the stories they are telling, even if you think it has nothing to do with you. Your answers are staring you in the face. Messages are confirmed through feelings, an inner knowing, that small voice inside, or a peaceful feeling. Pay attention to other’s opinions, as most people are more intuitive than they admit. When the majority of people don’t trust a person, they are usually correct.
Stop and be still. For every decision you make, practice feeling and asking yourself, “Does this feel right?” Make a habit of connecting to your inner guidance and meditate. Heighten your senses to the energy with which you surround yourself. Keep challenging yourself, asking, “How does this feel?” and make choices that give you feelings of positivity, peace, and calm.
- Hold Yourself Accountable
When you are truthful with yourself about your actions, you will hold others accountable for their actions. Don’t make excuses for yourself, and then you won’t make excuses for others.
- Cleanse Your Body and Eat Well
Drink lots of water and immerse yourself in nature. If your body contains toxins, it will attract toxic emotions and situations in your life. Smoking, alcohol, and eliminate drugs. Eat well and cleanse your body with suitable foods to remove heavy metals and other substances that negatively impact your wellbeing and energy. Exercise regularly to maintain a healthy physical body.
More detail is in my new book “Freeing the Unloved Girl.”
Since my childhood, I was shut down and oblivious to others’ intentions and betrayals which resulted in bad situations in my life. Now that I have healed, I feel very connected. I have a strong ability to “read” others well, and it has become a way of life as I use this ability to heal others. You have this ability to “know.” Use it to the maximum so that truth is revealed then you are safe, and you then you can feel safe.
Sending you blessings, peace, safety and love always,
Blessings and love,