Choose yourself and put yourself first

One of the hardest things for women to do is to put themselves first. There’s always an excuse to sacrifice yourself for your children, partners, friends or coworkers.  This can cost you in many ways and leave you feeling worn out and resentful.

Learning to utilise universal laws will show you that what you want and what you are asking for are two different things. You can’t keep giving to others without receiving anything in return, and expect the universe to grant you anything different. No-one else is going to put you first, so it may as well be you – here are some steps on how…

Rate your relationships – do you over give?

Once you choose to move forward in a self-loving and confident way, analyse your current relationships. Are those you surround yourself within the likeness of who you are or want to be? Are your positive friends and loved ones are few and far between? If so, then it is time to make another life choice and rearrange your relationship priorities.

After all, if you are on the search for more positive energy, you won’t find it from dippity downers who are always focused on negativity. Ultimately, the energy you choose to associate with is a message you are sending to the Universe of what you want to receive. Make sure that message is a good one!

Sacrificing Yourself

A positive relationship is defined by one that fulfills both parties’ needs. One person should not be left feeling empty and alone, while the other is completely satisfied. As you take inventory of your relationships, be truthful to yourself. Who do you give or sacrifice the most?  Are you in a romantic relationship with a man who drains you of your energy every day?

Does he come home expecting dinner and your undivided attention, without once asking about your day or how you are feeling? Or are you working seven days a week to pay for your son’s tuition bill, feeling exhausted and missing out on a positive relationship with your son? A sacrifice is something that results in you giving or doing something at a cost to yourself – and too much of anything is never a good thing.

Start tuning into your emotions, so you become aware of the things you agree to do. You may notice your need to please others comes before acknowledging your own needs.  Awakening yourself to this routine can be very transformative. It will help you create more positive relationships and experiences by making sure your exchanges with others is balanced.  Stay focused on making yourself and your needs a priority, rather than the needs of others. Once you start this process, you will attract people and situations that fulfill your requirements without even trying.

Stay Connected

Stay connected to the things that make you happy. Are you making the best of your time by spending it with amazing and caring people, or are you allowing your sacrificing self to come forth and be drained by the ‘needy’ ones?

Reward yourself daily by connecting more wholly with the positive energy in your life. Also, stay connected with universal energy; the greater force outside of yourself, the universe, God – or whatever you wish to call it.

Trust that the force will provide you with what you need and be confident and happy in that. By making yourself a priority, you are loving yourself and sending out the most uplifting, powerful energy you can! Are you launching those appreciation rockets yet? Tell me how you are going to appreciate yourself more…

Blessings always,

Marisa ♥