Choose yourself and put yourself first

One of the hardest things for women to do is to put themselves first. There’s always an excuse to sacrifice yourself for your children, partners, friends or coworkers. This can cost you in many ways and leave you feeling worn out and resentful.

Learning to utilise Universal laws will show you that what you want and what you are asking for are two different things. You can’t keep giving to others without receiving anything in return, and expect the Universe to grant you anything different. No-one else is going to put you first, so it may as well be you. The following steps will reveal how to shift this dynamic.

Rate your relationships – do you over give?

Once you choose to move forward in a self-loving and confident way, analyse your current relationships. Are your relationships with people you aspire to be like? If you struggled to identify positive role models, then it’s time to make new life choices and rearrange your relationship priorities.

After all, if you are on the search for more positive energy, you won’t find it from dippity downers who are always focused on negativity. Ultimately, the energy you choose to associate with is a message you are sending to the Universe of what you want to receive. Don’t blame anyone around you, take responsibility for your attractions. The people around you are reflecting a message and your level of self-respect.

Sacrificing Yourself

A positive relationship is defined by one that fulfils both parties’ needs. One person should not be feeling drained or unfulfilled, while the other is completely satisfied. 

As you take inventory of your relationships, be truthful to yourself. Who do you make more sacrifices for when your efforts are not reciprocated? Are you in a romantic relationship with a person who takes more than they give? Do they expect dinner on the table with your undivided attention, without asking how you are feeling?  Are you working seven days a week to pay for your child’s schooling, feeling exhausted and missing out on a positive relationship with your child? 

A sacrifice is something that results in you giving or doing something at a high cost. It shows that you think life is hard, difficult and sacrificial. You don’t trust the Universe to provide an easier life.

When you analyse your feelings, you become aware of the times you ignore your own needs when you agree to comply with other’s requests.

You may notice your need to please others comes before acknowledging your own needs. Awakening yourself to this routine can be very transformative. It will help you create more positive relationships and experiences by making sure your exchanges with others is balanced. I call it the math equation: you give, and they give. 

Stay focused on making yourself and your needs a priority, rather than the needs of others. Once you start this process, you will attract people and situations that fulfil your requirements without even trying. If you fail to do this, then you will be taking from someone else to fill the void of energy that you give away to the takers. You continue a bad cycle.

Stay Connected

Stay connected to the things that make you happy.  Make the most of your time by spending it with amazing and caring people. Don’t wait for a hardship to wake you up to the fact that this life is short and quickly passes by.

Reward yourself daily by connecting more wholly with the positive energy in your life. Also, stay connected with Universal energy; the greater force outside of yourself, the Universe, God – or whatever you wish to call it.

Trust that the force will provide you with what you need and be confident and happy in that. By making yourself a priority, you are loving yourself and sending out the most uplifting, powerful energy you can!

Are you launching those appreciation rockets yet? Tell me how you are going to appreciate yourself more…

Blessings always,

Marisa ♥

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