Have you wondered why some people heal from adverse conditions with more ease than others? I have been analysing the reasons for this since I first began my energy healing career decades ago. It didn’t matter what healing modality I applied, kinesiology, NLP, hypnosis, spiritual or soul healing the results were all the same.

I can now conclude that there are three main reasons why people stay stuck in their adverse conditions and block their ability to heal. Since everything begins with energy, and emotions and thoughts are energy, it makes sense why the following reasons prevent the flow of healing energy and make it difficult for someone to heal.

1. Change

My favourite Mark Twain quote is “If you do what you have always done, you will get what you have always got.” People who continue to stay the same will create the same results just as a maths equation. 2+2 will always equal four, no matter how many times you repeat the equation. So if you want a different result, the numbers need to change. Your life is no different. Change is necessary if you’re going to create different outcomes. Your thoughts, actions, intentions, and decisions need to change, which in turn attracts and creates different results.

Analyse your thoughts, conditioning, and traditions. Question why you believe the things you do and use the law of attraction. For example, if you think that life is unfair and bad things always happen, you are projecting that your healing won’t work and things go wrong. Your new focus should be on the times where things worked out for you – discipline your mind to keep the focus that they will. Let go of negative thoughts and conditioning that don’t serve you and change to a new and freer way of thinking to attract better outcomes. Patterns are created everywhere you go, watch for them and choose to change them if they are not working for you.

2. Negativity

You are an energetic being so the energy around you will affect you no matter how much you think otherwise. Speaking negatively blocks your chances of getting what you want, and associating with negative people leaves negativity in your energy field. For good energy to flow through to heal, you need positive energy which is sourced from positive emotion. If your thoughts, intentions, and feelings are in anger, this will cause the same to be returned and block the flow of healing energy. Angels and guides cannot assist you when there is a wall of negativity. The more kindness you generate, the more good karma you build so you can be blessed.

Always look for ways to bless others and think kind thoughts about them. Imagine you have a bank account that can fill with good deeds and thoughts that will be exchanged for a flow of powerful energy to heal you. In my practice and workshops, I have seen evidence of this theory a thousand times over with those who get amazing results from healing. The easiest people to heal are the most forgiving and loving people as the healing energy is attracted to them like a magnet. They have so much good energy from the loving thoughts of others from their kindness; there is no resistance for the energy to heal them.

3. Responsibility

When you blame others or situations, you give away your power and control over what happens to you. This puts you in “victim” mode and sends a message to the universe that you see yourself as a victim and bad things happen to you. Realising that everything you create and attract is in your energy field will give you the power to change things and stop blaming others or situations.

A disempowering thought for your destiny is “It doesn’t matter what I do. It’s predetermined.” Replace this with “I’m destined for greatness. I have the opportunity to do amazing things. But it’s up to me to make it happen.” Don’t resign yourself to thinking your decisions are made for you.

To change what’s wrong in your life, you must believe you’re the one in control. Don’t blame, complain, or criticise. Accept full responsibility for everything in your life, whether you caused it or not; even external problems can have internal solutions. Taking responsibility for your life will empower, foster success, and heighten self-esteem, all of which lead to increased happiness.