Ever thought you knew your work colleagues, friends or family members and then found out they were not who they appeared to be? Experiences with other people usually become the most life-changing moments in people’s lives. For this reason, you need to know a person’s character so you can trust them.
Save yourself the trouble and years of heartache that so often occurs when you open yourself up to people who betray you.
After spending many years analysing untrustworthy people, I have discovered a technique that exposes a person’s integrity and their general intentions in the first meeting.
This fast and easy method can save you a lot of pain and suffering by becoming aware of the signs in the first three minutes of meeting someone.
How to know what a person is really like
You can use the same method with the people who are around you today. They have already shown you who they are.
You have heard the adage like attracts like … well, it is true. Dogs look like their owners, couples in long-term relationships have similar temperaments. Wealthy people associate with people who have similar bank accounts.
The physical attributes and lifestyle of people usually match their friends i.e. weight, height, fitness levels, diet, clothing styles etc. Dysfunctional people have relationships with other dysfunctional people, etc.. It’s all about a vibration that attracts others with similar energy, beliefs, thoughts, and emotions.
No matter how much someone may attempt to convince others cannot affect you, they do. Unless you are shut down to others’ feelings (and your own), given enough time with another person, their energy will rub off on you and that energy will become a part of you.
Long-term negative relationships eventually cause you to become negative and depressed. So before you begin a business, personal or social relationship, ask the person to describe their friends, family or peers. When they describe what type of person they spend the most time with, they are representing themselves.
Spend a few minutes asking questions about their relationships
So in the first three minutes, listen and ask them about the relationships that mean the most to them.
If a person says their friends are loyal, trustworthy, compassionate and have integrity, this would be a sure sign this person has these wonderful traits also.
People become the “average” of the people around them. The clues are all there when you stop and listen to what people say. This will assist you in surrounding yourself with uplifting, happy people.
Practice this technique now and let me know your findings.