How to find self-love and self-worth

Have you taken an inventory of your relationships and can’t figure out why you aren’t attracting what you desire? Do you feel weighed down by your regrets of what you’ve done, or feel the shame of things of your past actions?

If this is something you are struggling with, you need to re-evaluate your level of self-love. Easier said than done, but self-love is one of the most important ways to achieve what you want in life.

Live and let live

The first step to really lovin’ yourself is through forgiveness. Forgiving yourself is one of the hardest steps to take, but it releases all sorts of negativity and nurtures self-love. When you genuinely love yourself, breaking free of your regrets and grudges against yourself, then you can genuinely love others.

Universal law kicks into action and rewards you because you free yourself of guilt.  If you hold yourself as being “guilty” or not forgiving yourself, then you are asking to be punished. It’s like giving yourself the community chest card in monopoly that says “do not pass go, do not collect $200 and go directly to jail”. Who needs that?

Find your past mistakes

The first step of self-forgiveness is to start with a list of past situations you need to release.  It may include things like “Bullying younger sister, Sarah.”

Once you have created your list, think about how they have affected your life. Have you withdrawn yourself from positive relationships out of remorse? Do you avoid checking your bank account out of fear of being reminded of your ‘regret’?  Now, think about the freedom, love, and relief, you will feel once you no longer carry the weight of those situations.

Mirror images

The second step is to have a conversation as if you are talking to the person you hurt, apologising for your behaviour as you look into the mirror. Say something like  “I am sorry I hurt you, Sarah, for all the things I did – you did not deserve any of it.

I am also sorry, [your name], as I know you were in pain during the times you bullied your sister. You had a tough childhood riddled with abuse, and I want to forgive you for hurting Sarah. I forgive you as you need to release this burden. I forgive you, and you are free. I love you.” Inhale forgiveness, exhale self-love out, and repeat the affirmation.

Give yourself the gift of love

Self-love is your birthright. You were born to be great, to be amazing and to shine bright!  Give yourself this opportunity and freedom by forgiving yourself of your faults and mistakes.  The power is within you to begin your release. Initiate self-love conversations – find things to admire about yourself and say this out loud … you are as great as you allow yourself to be!

Are you lovin’ yourself crazy yet?

Blessings always,

Marisa ♥