How to cope with pain and suffering?
Do you feel sorry for people or situations that causes you to spend hours worrying and recounting the story to others? When you connect to the pain and stress of others, it can leave you feeling disempowered and distraught.
There is so much media access to the unimaginable suffering in the world today that it can leave you feeling overwhelmed and depressed. Did you know that the learned behaviour of feeling sorry and connecting to other people’s pain can cause more harm than good?
Using the law of attraction or the concept of the exchange of energy, I will explain how and why you can help or hinder a person or situation and how you can reduce the feeling of being overwhelmed and sad in these challenging situations.
Getting Past the Emotions
I used to feel so overwhelmed by the abuse and suffering I would witness that it often left me in tears. Today, I still can’t witness cruelty on any level as I can feel the pain of another human being or animal all too clearly. My ability to connect to others is heightened since my profession involves channeling energy to heal others – to be a clear channel, I need to be personally connected and open to feeling everything.
Initially, I did not know what to do about this dilemma as I felt desperate to stop others’ pain, especially that of innocent victims such as animals and children. Over time, I have learned how to be more empowered and stay strong when I witness or hear debilitating stories recounted to me, thus allowing me to focus on what I do best – help and heal.
Like Attracts Like
If you analyse the law of attraction – like attracts like. This shows that worrying only adds more negative energy to a situation, and doing this expands into more problems, pain, and stress. This concept permits you to stop worrying and directing energy on the things you don’t want; it helps you to redirect energy and thoughts on the outcomes you want.
The ability to heal requires keeping your energy or vibration raised, which then increases the other person or situation’s energy to help change and heal it when you connect to others problems you place yourself in the “black hole” with them, which only compounds both your miseries.
It is the same universal rule that is applied to visualising the things you want or keeping your emotions on the things you want to attract. When I see a suffering animal on Facebook or the internet, I place my hand over the picture with the intention to send healing energy to them and visualise them rescued, healed and well. My two mammas boys (my kitties) get so much love and good energy as I use them as a surrogate to send the healing energy to the animals in need.
I realised that feeling sad for others reduces my power to heal and impairs my ability to stay focused on what my purpose and goals. When I keep my vibration positive, I can visualise others healed and happy, offering greater possibility for them to improve.
Helping not Harming
My own experience of childhood abuse caused me to feel like a victim. This attracted more pain and suffering as I grew older. Over time, I realised that recounting my struggles kept me stuck, and prevented me from moving forward and focusing on solutions instead. Now, I discipline myself to repeat stories that are uplifting. If there is a negative situation that arises, I focus more on the resolution and ways to move forward, rather than dwelling on the past.
9 Tips to Keep You Elevated
The most common statements from people are “I feel sorry for them” or “This is so unfair”. These statements help no-one involved. There are more constructive ways to move forward in challenging situations, so I have listed seven tips to keep you empowered in times of difficult challenges.
1. Focus and visualise the positive outcome
2. When you speak about the situation, tell others the outcome you want
3. Make a vision board of the situation already resolved and the solution manifested.
4. Place a picture of the person/animal with figurine angels around the picture (symbolic of protection and healing)
5. Eliminate worrying and choose to surrender to the trust that everything will work out.
6. Heal yourself of pain and suffering as that attracts pain and suffering in your life.
7. Distract yourself when you feel sad and repeat a positive affirmation such as “I choose to let go and feel peace.”
8. Imagine giving healing and love to another person or animal that is intended for the situation
9. Get healing and meditate regularly to keep your emotions and energy calm
I hope this gives you some constructive ideas to assist you in your challenges of living in a world that can often feel painful and insensitive. When you feel good, you raise the vibration for others and the planet to heal and change.
What are the methods you use to keep calm in challenging times?
Blessings to you always,
Marisa
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Greetings Marissa,
i would like to say that i believe whole heartedly in affirmations, these change with the circumstances i go through, i love music old style, classical, meditation music, nature and the garden, trees, i am an artist, so love to paint on china, fabrics, tole etc. i love to surround myself with my work on display in my work room.
It is hard work, currently i am sewing in happy colours, making the outfits i have promised myself over the years, i move on with each creation, very good for the soul.
thank you for sharing your wisdom with us all.
Stephany
After my incident I am so emotional and in disbelief; I know I asked for what does not serve me anymore and my old world crumbled. I have a new start and most grateful for the awesome support system is available for the common people that do not have the funds to get through their trauma. I realized that we are never immune to trauma. Having your experience and wisdom will be most beneficial getting me to move forward. My heart and soul thank you.
When I lost my mother I was devastated. I was not a child but she died such a painful death and I had tried so many things with healing along the way to help her that it was draining on me. If ever I feel overwhelmed by sadness I do not let it overtake me. I have a well rehearsed process. I had the pleasure of meeting Glenn McGrath the same year my mother died and it impacted greatly his gracious manner. I thought of his 2 beautiful children losing their mother so young. So, when the sadness strikes me I say to myself. “You were so lucky to have mum for so long , remember the happy times and be glad”. After a few little tears I’m fine. The pain of the loss does not then overwhelm me. I am preparing my husband for the loss if his father the same way . He is in his final stages of cancer as well.
What a positive and affirming way to view a heartbreaking event.
Thank you so much for this post Marisa, it was such a perfect timing for me. I can relate to what you felt completely. I am holding a charity night in my house on 7th of September due to the events happening in Ukraine. I felt so much for people suffering over there and realised that yes, it depletes me, reduce my healing abilities…so I said: “My guides, I realised you want me to get involved and help (my ancestors are revolutioners) and I will do but I am a healer and this is end of it, this is my choice for this life time! I felt I won a quest! I had a client straight after that and healing session was powerful and I felt my FH divine helpers with me. When you focus on something different it attract different guides, so we have to always clearly know what we want and who we choose to work with. I had to unfollow the couple people on the Facebook to reduce the amount of sorrow on my timeline. You would be proud of me if you read the message I left for everyone on my event page, just as you say, let’s see the happy outcome, peace, healed and recovered civilians, recuperrated towns and it’s infrastructure…etc. I have a shamanic guest on the event, she will be doing world peace meditation with drumming. (Love her drum). Your post is about what I am going through right now, it helped me enormously, confirmed my thoughts about it. Many blessings to you Marisa, thank you. <3 <3 <3
Thank you for your comments – your feelings also tell the truth – Go be Great Blessings M♥
Hi Marissa,
I am SO glad you have posted this! For years now I have not allowed the news to be put on our TV because of all the suffering it depicts. I feel the same way about newspapers and a lot of other so called informative TV shows. The way the media goes on and on and on about one bad event, having specials and hours of shows dedicated to it drives me nuts! I have never really understood why I couldn’t stand them or what they represented so much, I just knew that after they had been on I felt awful! I felt like I was absorbing that negativity. I have always thought that what they depict cannot possibly be what really goes on in most people’s lives, the world cannot be THAT bad, surely?
Not only have you made me feel like I am justified in my actions but you have given me practical steps to take if I am exposed to the negative things that happen sometimes. I am a very strong believer in ‘everything happens for a reason’, even if at the time it is hard to see past the hardship and pain those experiencing it feel. Knowing I can just send them love and healing makes it all seem to make more sense.
Thank you, Sam.