POSITIVE ENERGY INDEX

Judgmental​

(1 being most accurate, 10 least accurate) They make derogatory comments about others in general. They persuade you to not like someone. They use a “grooming” process to disempower others so they can have power over them. They make some positive comments, and then negate them with derogatory comments. They speak negatively about others, or they hide their true negative feelings about others.

Jealous​

(1 being most accurate, 10 least accurate)They are competitive or jealous of others’ achievements. They refrain from expressing genuine happiness for others’ success. They lack self-worth and attempt to appear “better” than others. They complain about others’ income, integrity, or community status. They are unsuccessful in their life plans and relationships.

Blaming​

(1 being most accurate, 10 least accurate) These people blame others when things go wrong. They make comments such as, “They did this to me and it was wrong.” They play the victim or martyr role. They complain about types of service they receive or a product they bought.

Manipulative​

(1 being most accurate, 10 least accurate)  They use subtle negative comments about others and then talk about their own achievements. They describe how great others say they are. They claim to be better than others so they appear to have authority. They lie and exaggerate the facts and enjoy gossip. They pursue arguments and make threats to others. They choose litigation as a process to get what they want.

Angry​

(1 being most accurate, 10 least accurate) These people have unresolved anger towards others. They hold suppressed and unresolved emotions from childhood. They are justice fighters who fight other’s battles for those they think are treated unfairly. They want others to change to their way of thinking or beliefs. They hide who they really are. Their anger seeps out in different settings, for instance, while driving, watching TV, or speaking about others.

Fake​

(1 being most accurate, 10 least accurate)These people pretend they are something they are not, they do not know their true identity or what they really like. They’re secretive and hide their true intentions. They have ulterior motives and seek ways to take advantage of you. They are convincing in covering up their true feelings, they lie quickly and easily. They are insincere in their compliments. They make deliberate acts to show they are trustworthy and then abuse their trust. When confronted, they deny any wrongdoing and blame others.

Bad Relationships​

(1 being most accurate, 10 least accurate) This group includes anyone who has negative and toxic associations with others, especially family members and friends. They are vengeful and hold grudges.

Low Self-worth​

(1 being most accurate, 10 least accurate) These are chronic apologisers who have hazy boundaries and can’t say no. They are indecisive, afraid, and ashamed of exposing their true selves. They deflect praise and suspect compliments are insincere. They regret their past and give in easily. They predict their own failure and set low targets for themselves.

How Bad Do They Feel? ​

(1 being most accurate, 10 least accurate) How does this person “feel” to you? Do you feel drained and unhappy, or do negative things occur after you connect with this person? Do you act negatively around this person when you are normally positive? Do you hesitate spending time with this person?