Are you one of the many lonely people out there who doesn’t have friends, or has friends or partners that you would be better off without? Life can feel very lonely, and often we settle for what we can get instead of choosing people we know we deserve.
I also understand why people settle for what they can get as it feels better than being alone. So, do we need each other? What would happen if you moved on from your friends and family that may not be serving you?
Solitary confinement is torture
Before I answer that, I did some research on the effects of solitary confinement in prisons, and it is indeed not constructive. Prisoners who were in solitary confinement accounted for nearly half of all suicides in the jails.
A 1995 study of the federal prison system found that 63 percent of deaths occurred among inmates locked in “special housing status,” such as solitary or psychiatric seclusion cells.
The prisoners in solitary confinement experienced chronic apathy, lethargy, depression, and despair. They eventually lost the ability to socialise with others and stopped coming out of their cells when given the opportunity.
We need each other
So the answer is a definite and resounding yes. We need each other to grow and be happy. We also need good people around us, as I have often spoken about how the people around us have a direct correlation on our lives and our energy – good and bad. Just as you are what you eat, you become the average of your friends and support system.
We need each other, as our minds, souls, and bodies operate on emotion. It drives our entire system, and love is the most powerful emotion. Think of the times you have been deliriously in love or have had solid friendships. You become almost invincible, and this gives you the drive and passion for living out your dreams.
Create constructive positive connections
Making good connections and having nurturing relationships is paramount to being happy and growing in life. When you feel down, your friends will pick you up and vice versa. This is one of the reasons I maintain a good apple policy for the workshops I conduct. When you feel supported and safe, then you can heal and grow. I have experienced this fantastic love from many special people I have met along my path, and I know that without them, I would not be sitting here talking to you today.
So if you feel lonely, reach out to people like yourself and make connections. We have a Forensic Healing Facebook Group that is designed for women around the world to uplift, inspire, heal and support each other, especially women who feel alone. You are more than welcome to join.
Once you become your own bestfriend you no longer feel so alone
Just know that there are people like you who have felt or do feel lonely or alone – it’s a feeling I experienced most of my life, as I spent my childhood in my bedroom crying after my father abused me, which would happen far too often.
So reach out and connect – we need you, and you need us. We need to support each other to continue on this journey to make this planet a better place to live for animals, children and every human being.
Love and kindness will always prevail.
Blessings and love,