Being real (or authentic) is a crucial element to being successful. Even Oprah admits that being her authentic self is key to her success. Do you know if you or your friends and family are being their “real” selves? People who are the opposite, or “fake”, can cause you harm. You can take the “Being Real” test in this article to rate yourself and your friends’ level of genuineness or fakeness and use the results to get more success in life.
Fake People Can Be Unpredictable
A person who is fake can be unpredictable, disingenuous, and hide their emotions and agendas. A relationship with a fake person rarely lasts, and if it does stand the test of time, there will be unpredictable and painful surprises in the end. The problem is that you never know what they are thinking, who they are, or their true feelings. They often tell you what they think you want to hear, not what they believe.
Reality Test – A High Score is a Good Score
If you or your friends score close to 10 in the Reality Test, then you are on your way to living an authentic life and attracting “real” relationships and “real” success. This test will highlight the things you are doing right. If the scores are low, it will indicate areas you need to change to become more authentic and more aware of those who aren’t being real with you.
It Can Be Difficult To Be Real
Sometimes it is easier said than done to be your real self. You may have grown up in a judgmental family who conditioned you to act in a certain way to be accepted or loved. You may have endured a traumatic childhood causing you to lose fragments of your soul, feel incomplete, and continually search for something that is missing. You may have been conditioned to serve others rather than yourself, which leaves you thinking your worth comes from sacrificing your own needs and feelings. You may live in a culture that condemns or ostracises those who go against an expected way of living, making it hard to break away without risking the loss of family and friends.
You Have Been Conditioned To Be Like Everyone Else
It is not all your fault for not living as your authentic self. Society has judged, condemned and punished those who don’t follow the norm or become what society has determined as acceptable. Fortunately, there is a definite trend of people rebelling against this stifled, conditioned way of living, deciding that being real is to be celebrated and encouraged. This new way of thinking has created more choice and possibilities for people wanting to feel free to live as their true selves. Judy Garland summed it up when she said: “Be a first rate version of yourself, not a second rate version of someone else.”
Being Real Test
How Do You Shape Up? Rate Yourself And Your Friends
The following 20 questions will determine how real you or your friends are.
A. Rate each statement out of 10 (10 being most accurate, and 0 being none)
- You genuinely wish others well and aim to empower them
- You value real and honest relationships
- You keep your word and say no when you need to
- You are confident and don’t feel the need to brag
- You express your feelings easily
- You take responsibility for your actions and don’t blame others
- People think they can trust you
- You have good self-worth
- You are fearless
- You can trust in others and the universe (God/Divine/etc.)
- You are non-competitive and cooperate with others
- You are open to change and work on self-improvement
- You are non-judgmental, avoid gossip and are optimistic by nature
- Society or the opinions of others do not easily influence you
- You don’t live for validation from others
- You practice what you preach
- You are flexible and prepared to change when needed
- You treat yourself with respect and expect others to do the same
- You are self-motivated and know your purpose
- You always follow your gut instincts
B. Total your scores then divide by 20 (find the average)
You are living as your true self. Others will feel they can trust you. You are exactly as you appear – real, authentic, brave, sincere, trustworthy and honest.
You are consistently genuine and reliable. There are a few occasions where you avoid expressing how you feel. You will be relatively true-blue and loyal.
You sit on the fence, not sure of yourself or expressing your true feelings. You are disempowered and manipulated by strong people. You find it challenging to hold to your opinions.
You are not authentic and keep your true opinions to yourself. You will feel emotionally suppressed and live a life that makes you feel trapped. You lack self-worth and associate with other inauthentic people.
You are fake, and hold your true feelings to yourself. You live a life of fear and have negative self-talk. You will be untrustworthy, manipulative and your words will be unreliable or dishonest. You live a life of suppression and negativity. You are engaged in superficial relationships.
Being Real has
There are many benefits to living real and connecting with your true self. Like attracts like so being real will attract other like-minded people in your relationships and career. Life becomes rewarding when you are living honestly, respectfully expressing your true needs and feelings. When others can see the real you, then you can be recognised for your uniqueness, gifts, and talents. This way of living is the fastest way of finding your true purpose.
Being Real Formula
When you are real, you live as your true self or true identity.
This creates an awareness of being your true self.
When you live with awareness, you connect yourself and acknowledge your feelings or gut instincts.
When you follow your feelings, you are guided to being the best version of yourself, which is living with integrity. This is your personalised GPS to take you to freedom and passions.
My Freeing the Unloved Girl book will help you get real. Let me know your experiences and how you rate yourself in the comments below.
Blessings and love,